Transforming Self-Rejection into Self-Acceptance

By Elayne Savage, PhD 

Follow the Signposts

Here are some signposts to use in your journey of transforming self-rejection into self-acceptance.

• Ask yourself, “Am I taking this personally?”

• Ask yourself, “Am I trying to read someone’s mind?”

• Ask yourself, “Am I expecting someone to read my mind?”

• Remind yourself that certain beliefs may have seemed true in childhood but they are not true now. Try  to disidentify from them.

• Make sure you’re not blowing things way out of proportion by catastrophizing or overgeneralizing  beliefs about yourself.

• Walk alongside yourself. Notice as much as you can. Observing gets the flow going and opens up space  for choices.

• Keep reminding yourself that you have choices.

• Empathize—put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

• Hypothesize, but don’t analyze, pathologize, or therapize.

• Practice making eye contact.

• Practice saying “thank you” to compliments.

 

© Elayne Savage, PhD 

from Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Rejection

Elayne Savage, PhD, is called ‘The Queen of Rejection’ for a reason – she’s been taking things personally much of her life. She is a practicing psychotherapist, relationship and workplace coach and author of Breathing Room and Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection. You’ll find lots of communication tips at TipsFromTheQueenofRejection.com

Website: www.QueenofRejection.com

Blog: www.TipsFromTheQueenOfRejection.com

Twitter@ElayneSavage

Comments

[Raisa]

Great thoughts on transforming self rejection into self acceptance